Feminist Like Me

Musings of a Fed up feminist

17 Sep

Domestic Abuse Survivors Explain Why They Can't 'Just Leave'

Hope this helps us start asking the right questions, instead of continuing to ask the wrong ones.

17 Sep persephoneholly:

ten-and-donna:

kissnecks:

THIS OKAY

You want to get kids out of foster care and into good, loving homes? I’ve got a simple solution to your problem.

Did you know LGBT couples are more likely to adopt older, children of color and disable children than straight couples? LGBT couples tend to adopt ‘undesired’ children more (basically kids no one else wants.)

persephoneholly:

ten-and-donna:

kissnecks:

THIS OKAY

You want to get kids out of foster care and into good, loving homes? I’ve got a simple solution to your problem.

Did you know LGBT couples are more likely to adopt older, children of color and disable children than straight couples? LGBT couples tend to adopt ‘undesired’ children more (basically kids no one else wants.)

(Source: beaconpress)

17 Sep
We tell children – and particularly young girls – to beware of creepy adult behaviour; to identify, report and avoid it. But at some point during adolescence, the message becomes reversed: if you’re old enough to consent, the logic seems to go, then suddenly you’re old enough that being too scared to say no, or having your no ignored, is your fault rather than your assailant’s. When adults behave creepily towards children, our first priority is to ascertain whether a threat is posed, because we’d rather call them out for their inappropriateness than risk a genuine threat being written off as harmless, particularly in instances where the child is visibly upset. Certainly, if a child ever came to you and said they didn’t feel safe or comfortable around a particular adult, you’d treat it as a very serious matter. And yet we don’t extend the same logic to people who behave creepily towards other adults – partly and very reasonably, it must be said, because adults are better able to defend themselves than children, and because, on the sexual side of things, children literally cannot consent to anything, whereas one adult propositioning another is not morally repugnant in and of itself, regardless of how creepily they choose to go about it.

But surely the threat of sexual assault is still legitimate and grave enough that it’s better to call someone out for being inappropriate and creepy than to risk a genuine threat being written off as harmless, particularly when the subject of their behaviour is visibly upset? Surely if a friend or colleague comes to you and says they don’t feel safe or comfortable around a particular person, this too is a serious matter? Because even if that person has the best of intentions, poses no threat and doesn’t mean to be creepy, the fact remains that they are still making someone uncomfortable, and that’s definitely worth addressing. As the excellent John Scalzi points out, you don’t get to define someone else’s comfort level with you: sure, it might suck that someone thinks you’re being creepy, but your hurt feelings at that verdict are ultimately less important than whether or not the other person feels safe. If you persist in bothering someone after they’ve made it clear they don’t like you, or in treating them in a manner to which they object simply because you, personally, see nothing wrong with it, then you are being an asshat: you are saying that their actual fear and discomfort are less important that your right to behave in a way that makes them afraid and discomforted, and if that’s the case, then why the hell shouldn’t they call you out?

The Creepiness Question | shattersnipe: malcontent & rainbows (via samanticshift)

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17 Sep

boba-fit:

gynocraticgrrl:

Jessica Rey presents the history of the evolution of the swimsuit including the origins of its design, how it has changed overtime and the post-feminist association of the bikini symbolizing female empowerment. She refers to neuro-scientific studies revealing how male brains react to images of scantily clad women versus images of women deemed modest and what the implications of the results are for women in society.

(Note: As the OP, I disagree with Rey’s approach to putting the onus on women to alter ourselves rather than to alter the male perception of women – brain wiring has plenty to do with socialization and if we worked against the culture that fuels men’s objectification of women, women’s clothing choices would matter far less in terms of how men perceive us and determine how to interact with us).

Jessica Rey - The Evolution of the Swim Suit

She is hot.

the irony of that last post… smh. Yes, obviously that was the takeaway you should have had, considering her discussion on objectification. Her hotness.

Are you serious right now? ugh.

(Source: exgynocraticgrrl)

17 Sep

kuwata-kun:

destroy the idea of the “average father” coveting his daughter’s virginity and “protective brother” making sure no men lay their unholy eyes upon his sister who has given them full permission.

slaughter the idea that men are allowed to be gatekeepers for sex and have a duty or a right to “save women from themselves” when it comes to sex

kill the purity myth

17 Sep

femfreq:

How the new Ms. Marvel is changing comic books and media for the better. (via )

17 Sep

17 Lies We Need to Stop Teaching Boys About Sex

Since I posted the lies we need to stop teaching women yesterday, thought today an appropriate time to post the other side.

17 Sep littlecoast:

my-s1n-my-s0ul:

And don’t step in closer when we’re talking. You can hear me from arms length away. And don’t follow me when I am trying to walk away from the conversation. And stop. Just stop. Stop sexualizing people who don’t want to be sexualized. 
I just have a lot of feelings. 

I want this t-shirt.

littlecoast You can buy it here, while also supporting the artist! Her tumblr is alexcillustration if you like her work (Which, she has a bunch of awesome feminist stuff!) :)

littlecoast:

my-s1n-my-s0ul:

And don’t step in closer when we’re talking. You can hear me from arms length away. And don’t follow me when I am trying to walk away from the conversation. And stop. Just stop. Stop sexualizing people who don’t want to be sexualized. 

I just have a lot of feelings. 

I want this t-shirt.

littlecoast You can buy it here, while also supporting the artist! Her tumblr is alexcillustration if you like her work (Which, she has a bunch of awesome feminist stuff!) :)

(Source: alexcillustration)

16 Sep

policymic:

17 lies we need to stop teaching girls about sex

Fueled by outdated ideals of gender roles and the sense that female sexuality is somehow shameful, there are certain pernicious myths about girls and sex that just won’t die. That sex education in America has gaping holes doesn’t help much, either; in a recent Centers for Disease Control (CDC) report, just 6 out of 10 girls said that their schools’ sex ed curriculum included information on how to say no to sex. This lack of personal agency was reflected in a forthcoming study by sociologist Heather Hlavka at Marquette University as well, which found that many young girls think of sex simply as something that is “done to them.”

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16 Sep

This Republican Takes the Cake for the Worst Reaction to the Ray Rice Video

I’m sorry guys, be prepared to want to burn things to the ground. Or smash this man’s face in. 

Starting to think I should make a weekly “Dumb Shit Republicans Say” post, what do you think?